The world is full of unsolicited baby advice. Believe me, I KNOW.
When I was pregnant, EVERYBODY had an opinion. My family, my friends, the store cashiers, the post office clerk, the strangers rubbing my growing belly without asking. It carried on after I gave birth.
No one ever told me what I REALLY needed to hear.
So I’m telling YOU right now, because I believe you deserve to know.
The best baby advice for new moms:
— Let go of expectations.
Once you have a brand new baby, all bets are off and all is fair game.
Your BABY may be easy going, extremely hard to please, or fall somewhere in between. YOU may love motherhood instantly, or you may cry and wish you were never born yourself. (You may even feel both at the same time. Yay hormones!)
Quite honestly, a time may come when you feel like throwing your baby out the window is the only answer to everything. It’s OK. As long as you don’t actually throw your baby out the window.
Don’t feel guilty for any feelings you may have as a new mom or for not enjoying some days. The combination of sleep deprivation and raging hormones can hit you like a real witch brew.
Don’t be embarrassed to seek help if you need to (still rocking this, mama!).
— No matter how hard you try…
You will make a few mistakes along the way. Also part of the deal…
Forgive yourself and move on.
— Don’t compare yourself to other moms.
Don’t be buying for one second that the mom with perfect hair, perfect clothes, perfect attitude, perfectly dressed child (and obviously a perfectly clean home) sitting next to you on a park bench is always this ZEN. Though if she happens to be, befriend her and ask her to babysit so you can take a nap.
Comparing yourself with moms from Hollywood is a whole different ball game. Don’t. Ever. Do. That. Ever.
— Priorities matter.
Your laundry, your unmopped floors, your unchanged bed sheets, that inch of dust on your shelves? Who cares?! You’re a MOM now. No one remembers actual clean clothes, spotless kitchen, tidy shelves and freshly baked cookies sitting on a sterile coffee table. NO ONE.
Except maybe for your mother-in-law.
Enjoy your baby, give YOURSELF what you need (and deserve!), and don’t sweat the small stuff. If it’s not a life-threatening issue, it IS small stuff. Remember that.
— Read your baby, not baby books.
I mean, do read (good) baby books. I think books are awesome!
What I’m trying to say is tune into your baby over what any book says.
Trust yourself and the beautiful innate connection you have with your baby. It’s way too easy these days to get disconnected from our inner voice and to act out of stress, fear, or influence.
Trust me; a mother’s intuition is as real as you and me. If you have that red light going off in your head at any point, acknowledge it.
— Do whatever works for YOUR family.
You’re supposed to do THIS… You can count on THAT… ALWAYS do this… Don’t EVER do that… THIS is the best… But this is what EVERYBODY does!!!
Everybody seems to have some sort of best baby advice. And they mean well, they certainly do.
But… FORGET THAT.
Every child and every parent is different. Do what works for YOUR family, even if it means you may hear some criticism.
It’s OK to do things differently.
Do keep in mind though that this article is being written by someone that got fired from the pediatrician’s office for breaking rules. Ooops.
This is my baby advice to all new moms. It’s the kind of advice I never got myself and the kind I needed the most.
Take it or leave it.
Sincerely, from a mother to another.